Closing cycles

One always has to know when a stage
comes to an end. If we insist on staying
longer than the necessary time, we lose
the happiness and the meaning of the
other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending
chapters – whatever name we give it, what
matters is to leave in the past the
moments of life that have finished.
Did you lose your job? Has a loving
relationship come to an end? Did you
leave your parents’ house? Gone to live
abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship
ended all of a sudden?
You can spend a long time wondering why
this has happened.
You can tell yourself you won’t take
another step until you find out why
certain things that were so important and
so solid in your life have turned into dust,
just like that.
But such an attitude will be awfully
stressing for everyone involved: your
parents, your husband or wife, your
friends, your children, your sister.
Everyone is finishing chapters, turning
over new leaves, getting on with life, and
they will all feel bad seeing you at a
standstill.
Things pass, and the best we can do is to
let them really go away.
That is why it is so important (however
painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs,
move, give lots of things away to
orphanages, sell or donate the books you
have at home.
Everything in this visible world is a
manifestation of the invisible world, of
what is going on in our hearts – and
getting rid of certain memories also
means making some room for other
memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach
yourself from them.
Nobody plays this life with marked cards,
so sometimes we win and sometimes we
lose.
Do not expect anything in return, do not
expect your efforts to be appreciated,
your genius to be discovered, your love to
be understood.
Stop turning on your emotional television
to watch the same program over and over
again, the one that shows how much you
suffered from a certain loss: that is only
poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not
accepting love relationships that are
broken off, work that is promised but
there is no starting date, decisions that
are always put off waiting for the “ideal
moment.”
Before a new chapter is begun, the old
one has to be finished: tell yourself that
what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you
could live without that thing or that
person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit
is not a need.
This may sound so obvious, it may even
be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles. Not because of pride,
incapacity or arrogance, but simply
because that no longer fits your life.
Shut the door, change the record, clean
the house, shake off the dust.
Stop being who you were, and change into
who you are.

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